search the forum, it is an old and dead issue which has been answered. it is useless to talk to these hypocrites, because; a) disrespect and hypocrisy is in their upbringing the shair of shaykh sa'adi rahimahullah, which I quoted here, befits them very well. خشت اول چوں نہد معمار کج تا ثریا مے رود دیوار کج If a builder lays the first brick bent then the entire wall will rise slanted to the skies. their upbringing is the disrespect of RasulAllah alaihi afDalus salat wat-tasleem, and veneration and defense of their elders. b) or, if it is not from their childhood, then it is due to their bad company لَّا تَجِدُ قَوْمًا يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ يُوَادُّونَ مَنْ حَادَّ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَلَوْ كَانُوا آبَاءَهُمْ أَوْ أَبْنَاءَهُمْ أَوْ إِخْوَانَهُمْ أَوْ عَشِيرَتَهُمْ ۚ مجادلة - 22 You will not find the people who believe in Allah and the Last Day, befriending those who oppose Allah and His Noble Messenger, even if they are their fathers or their sons or their brothers or their tribesmen; so, bad company, and learning from hypocrites has destroyed their iman. c) or if it is not due to the above two then, it is only because; فَإِنَّهَا لَا تَعْمَى الْأَبْصَارُ وَلَٰكِن تَعْمَى الْقُلُوبُ الَّتِي فِي الصُّدُورِ (46 - الحج)So, it is not the eyes that are blind, but it is the hearts in the bosoms, that are blind. read TKM, if you have not already, and then compare it with their questions/challenges.