I found this comment interesting and I believe that it is true for many among the laity. It certainly was true for me in my days of indecision and confusion which preceded my wholehearted embracing of sunnism. For some people overly concerned with propriety and manners, it might seem virtuous to preach about politeness and 'high' standards, even to the point of hypocrisy. But such misplaced and ill-timed 'adab' and 'gentleness' does not help the person incarcerated in doubts and lacking the wherewithal to personally distinguish truth from falsehood to one's own satisfaction. I feel that vigorous, energetic and impassioned language has it's place in our debates and discussions. Of-course, I don't mean descending to the level of cursing or using expletives or unbridled shouting like a maniac. That goes without saying.