Wahabis and Deos are more open minded (not restricted) by anything.
i guess we all have our own anecdotal narrations/evidences.
but i disagree with most of what you have said.
wahabis and devbandis too are restricted by their constraints - they just know how to manage them and incorporate them into their activities.
One statement which generally makes alot of sense, allows them to be seen as the 'correct' people. And that magical sentence is "we are all muslim and brothers in islam". In such sentences they will even deem shiahs to be Muslims.
while devbandis are shameless taqiyyabaz liars, wahabis are uncompromising on their manhaj
they "refute" "Hanafis", "Asharis", "Soofees", as well as the shia - the difference is that they have a bigger curriculum than us
they can have a lesson on the fundamentals of namaz, on marriage, on inheritance, etc., and in those lessons say things like 'saying aameen softly is a bidah' (namaz bayan) or 'reciting the Fatiha at the time of engagement is bidah' (marriage bayan) or just include a snide remark or two aside from the topic
that - and then they also have days dedicated to "correct aqidah". of course on those days they propagate their jahil aqaid, as well as again "refute" non-wahabis - once again, the topic or day itself is not centered around refutation of the ahlul bidah or the ikhwan, but rather on the "correct" manhaj of the "salaf"
our curriculum is what - urdu/punjabi fiery speeches on some selected topics, on ritualistic urs days (thanks to our obsession with urs and numbers with almost an obligatory focus on karaamaat rather than the seerah's of the great people) with sloganeering and actually verbally asking the awam to shower their bayans with Subhan Allah if the awam didn't feel the urge to be excited enough on their own - with naatkhwani and Salat o Salam
how many wahabis have you seen who meet a new person (common guy or scholar) and ask him to sign on kitab al tawhid or aqidah al-wasitiyyah on day one? we have enough "Barelwis" who the minute they see someone else, will ask the person 'so, do you agree with Subhan Al-Subbuh & Hussamul Haramayn?' even if he himself wouldn't be able to describe their contents other than just beating his chest on the title and Ala Hazrat's greatness, or even if the person being asked might be a new immigrant from Ghana
long story short - they have many many more talking points than us - in the local language that the youth can connect with - by multi-ethnic teams
we have limited talking points - in urdu/punjabi - by old desi maulvis running peer shops; illa ma sha Allah
"we are all muslim and brothers in islam"
ironically, for all the wahabi's jahl and short-sightedness, he has more attention to detail and nuance than our jazbati desis on that point - we won't be shy to run our mouths on someone the very second we see him sitting at a bayan by tablighi vultures, even if he's a passerby or a college kid newly learning deen or so on
we have forgotten that people come in all shades and even not every wahabi or devbandi is the same, some are only in name. wahabis are unassuming and actually act on that line, and comment on something specific only if they see it, unless they are downright soaked in an environment or talking about it, like say a dargah
If they really need to they will even pray behind a shiah. If they really need to, they will even use the Hindu religion to explain Islam using Hindu
unless you're lumping wahabis and devs together, i personally haven't even heard of wahabis praying behind shias. devs are a different class of shameless
as for using hindu religion, yes that is certainly jahl and their enthusiasm to get dawah numbers, but then we have ilme kalam on our side - which one of our maulvis bothers to learn it and teach it and use it in their bayans?
i have yet to see someone who wasn't left awestruck and supremely fascinated after hearing or reading proper kalam based discourse, we have the best of the best resources, but alas!
yes, but in recent times, that's only for the madkhali brand of wahabism
ikhwanis don't get any, but that's just recent past
devbandis might have a few wahabi funding success stories from the past due to their taqiyya, but generally weren't supported as a matter of policy. in the recent past, the wahabis have categorically proscribed them
devbandis are devils but let's give them credit for channeling their chanda's for publishing, gasht, social welfare etc. more efficiently while we were busy lighting up streets and cooking haleem. they were ahead of the game than us for a very long time.
we both have enough stories of our own of chanda and charities funds being eaten away!
of course there are enough kind hearted and generous people among us, but as a structured approach towards charity, social welfare and aiding the poor - i may be wrong, and feel free to correct me, but your poor local paanwala's kids in india/pakistan would most probably be attending a madrasa funded by a devbandi controlled charity rather than ours
i spoke in another thread about devbandis successfully dealing with the modern schooling system (for middle class or well off kids) in pakistan with their maktaba system. pakistan has enough wealthy Barelwis too, especially considering how much money is showered on naatkhwani gatherings - why are we lagging behind the devbandis on this?
how long has it been since the hijab row in karnataka india? not too long, it's a recent event. wahabis and devbandis are already fundraising, locally and in the west, for making schools, colleges, coaching centers etc. for Muslim kids so that they don't get turned down for hijab reasons. can we name a few Barelwi organizations from karnataka doing the same?
don't get me wrong - we do have super duper Sunni and Barelwi success stories like this - https://asfmw.com/ - but we need more of them - ma sha Allah these DI mawlanas and brothers have built a Sunni wonderland in one of the most poorest nations in the world - Malawi - and it doesn't span decades, they started their work in 2015
we also need a lot more stories of medium success, along with a few stories of over achievement - and all success stories need to be publicized, to our own (desis & Barelwis), as well as to others, for both targheeb that greedy peers might learn a lesson and work for Sunniyat, as well as for the snowball effect and wanting Sunni organizations and work to grow exponentially
maybe the achievers among us are just silent achievers like these brothers in Malawi - i keep hearing in DI bayans how DI has made roughly 150,000 huffaz and ulama across the world. that's great and needs to be publicized more and more efforts need to be done to raise those numbers
The sunnis have been defamed by deobandis (due to the lies they spread) e.g. calling us mushriks, grave worshippers etc.
we talk about them too
the difference is they talk (lie) about us to other non-Sunnis and non-desis
we talk about them (some or many truths, depending on the caliber of the maulana saab) only in our own gatherings of urs, Mawlid, Shabe Baraat etc to our own people
when we do talk to other people about them, we don't take a structured and step by step approach, and straight away want the audience to attest to the entire Fatawa Ridawiyyah - the introduction and representation of it (and by extension, Ala Hazrat too) being at the mercy of the mawlana or common person who is talking about it
just my opinions, and yes my post is somewhat of a rant but not totally.
Allah knows best