Something that often gets overlooked in parenting is the use of attaching a particular feeling to an action. This is because our experiences shape how we act and if their is a good feeling attached to it then we are more accustomed to doing something otherwise not. So instead of hitting a child to learn Qur'an, give him a sweet and smile lots and even make him laugh (within reason). Allahu Alam
the best book i've personally read in English is: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Educating-...d=1490648437&sr=8-1&keywords=abdul+aziz+ahmed
if you are looking for Urdu books then these two can help. Tarbiat-e-Aulad Tarbiat-e-Olaad Ka Islami Nizam Note that I have not read these books, only searched on marfat and found these two books for the subject.
