- lack of proper tarbiyah (I think this is the main factor. It all comes down to the way and the values with which you have been brought up) - individualism - lack of proper sound advice - getting into marriages without knowing what it entails or their responsibility therein, or the fact that it is someone’s daughter. May Allah protect ourselves and our sons from being unjust.
the meaning of 'dhawwaq' is one who marries often and divorces soon after, as if it is a sport and as if it were for mere gratification. --- the footnote mentions works with a different wording, however the wording used by alahazrat is common among fuqaha - even the hadith masters among them. in fat'h al-qadir is the wording: [v3/p445 of the commonly available pdf] "Allah ta'ala has cursed the person who is quick to divorce" ==== shah waliyullah dihlawi in his Hujjatullahi'l Balighah: [vol.2 p213] ====== alahazrat has probably cited it thus based on commonly found wording. answers to your qs in next post, in sha'Allah. wAllahu a'alam.
alahazrat quotes a hadith with this wording in fatawa ridawiyyah, 12/331, however as is mentioned in the footnote, this hadith cannot be found in this wording, but rather with the wording that Allah does not love the men who taste and the women who taste. my questions are: 1. is it possible to reconcile between the wording mentioned by alahazrat and the other wording, by understanding Allah not loving someone to be analogous to being cursed by Him? 2. is it permissible to quote the hadith with the wording mentioned by alahazrat? i seek for mawlana @abu Hasan to answer, if possible جزاکم الله خیرا
