Title: The rights of parents over children Reference: Tafsir of Suratul Ahqaf Category: Tafseer/Khutbah Quran: "Wa wasainal insana, be walidaihi Husnaa, hamalatu kur an wa wa dathu qur'aa ……………… (Surah Ahqaf, Verse 15) Rough Translation: "A strong recommendation from Allah swt, that you treat your parents (both) well. His mother carried him (with difficulty), when she delivered (also a difficult process). The period of pregnancy and breastfeeding is 30 months. Until this baby reaches maturity (Age of 40). Then that Slave (new born), will say Oh Allah swt give me the ability so I can be thankful for the bounties you gave me and my parents, and that I do well, that pleases you, and also make my off spring pious. I repent to you and I am amongst those who submits to you". You are suppose to have "Ihsaan" when you deal with your parents. 2 kinds of Ihsaan 1) Materialistic – You support them financially, take care of their needs. 2) Spiritual – e.g Yahya bin Khalid, when he was jailed with his father, he stood up all night awake carrying a bucket of water over a candle, so that the water is warm when his father wakes up for FAJR. If you are good to your parents, your children will treat you good too, what goes round, comes round! Your mothers bore you in their stomach, and that is a painful process and more, it is even life threatening sometimes! The Quran says "when someone does you good, the least you should do is return that good". Ibn Kathir narrated an event in his tafseer, in the khilafa of Uthman (R.A). A mans wife delivers after 6 months, and her husband comes and says "I have doubts". So Uthman (R.A) sends soliders to collect the woman, and she is crying. She is asked "she says, I swear by Allah swt, nobody has laid hands on me, except my husband". The judgement was that she would be stoned, and Ali (R.A) came, and asked and told him of the Ayat of the Quran and explained, and told him that breastfeeding is (30-2), so that leaves 6 months for pregnancy and it is possible. Uthman (R.A) said "subhanallah, where is that woman?" Breastfeeding is important, Quran stresses on it. You are nourishing the kid, and giving that spiritual bond with you. Some scholars say , a person becomes mature, because prophets (A.S) all of them were sent with the message at 40. Also other references in the Quran of 40 Also Abdaal are 40, Hadith Sahih etc etc However, Isa spoke from birth, and Allah swt gave Yahya wisdom from youth. Scholars say when Shaytaan sees a man who has reached 40 years and not done tauba, the shaytaan wipes his face, and says "this is a face of a loser". Seems like that age is a turning point in peoples life, they change with wisdom. When the man reaches 40, he is more thankful to Allah swt, makes that dua …. You realise you have ni'mas, that others don't have etc. Before you make shukr, you have to realise of the ni'mat. Shaykh then talks about your parents, and asks how many times do you think about them? The prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said "when the son of Adam dies, everything he leaves behind, except 3 things , one is a pious offspring who makes dua for them? So shaykh reminds us to "give charity on their behalf", "to remember then much" so you are thankful for what they have done for you. The basis of good things, is what Allah swt likes, not what you think is good and you like. We should all make dua to have pious offspring, as we have no control over our kids, the streets, TV control our kids. Teach them love of Allah swt, the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم, Sahaba (R.A), Ahlul Bayt, Awliya. Etc. If there are any faults in the postings above, they are due to myself and not from the original khutba of Shaykh. May Allah(swt) continue to elevate the Maqam of our shaykh and their Noble family and give us all the ability to benefit from their wealth of knowledge and wisdom, and forgive me for my shortcomings. Ameen __________________ عابد محمود From Ubayy Ibn K'ab RA. "The believer has four characteristic. If he is afflicted by any misfortune, he remains patient and steadfast. If he is given anything, he is grateful.If he speaks, he speaks the truth. If he passes a judgement on any issue, he is just."