Not everyone is capable of tackling issues. Many people just use socials to share their personal life and follow other entertainment such as sports etc. No doubt there are benefits to social media if used correctly but mostly the costs are higher than the benefits. How did we fall behind with Tvs?
Not marriage or gender interaction related - but social media is a necessary evil in many cases... like propaganda and careers. If you're not prancing around on LinkedIn, you might not come across the best advancement opportunities, bjp, mossad, madkhalis use salaried employees to push their propaganda, other influencers try their best to counter it... so in. social media today is what the TV was in the 80s. Should we rather embrace the technology and tackle the issues head on or fall behind like how Muslims in general and Sunnis too did in the case of TV and MSM?
To be very honest. If you are on social media, no matter how much one can claim or try to avoid, but somehow shaytaan manages to lure us with interacting with the opposite gender. Again, there are some people who don't interact at all, but they probably part of the 1 percent. It starts of with a like, then comment (the noticing period begins) and eventually over some post the private interaction will take place via a direct message. The harms of social media are way more than its benefits. Most importantly the amount of time spent. Documentaries are available on how this has caused depression on society, and increases pretentious behavior as well. There are certain people so obsessed with likes that they will go to the extent of creating multiple fake accounts and like their own posts on their main account, just for a display of likes, and of course the list goes on ... Even Ulama should create central means and channels to ask questions. In an Era where technology is so advanced, anonymous qna sites can be created. Instagram qna ain't the way, as then imams start interacting with the opposite gender and become their personal therapists. Let's not even talk about marriage websites hosting events of opposite interactions... Best solution is - quite social media if you can. You will realise the barakah in your time, feel much happier and will be focusing on yourself. Allah guide us on Haq aameen.
Trying to get someone to change their habits post marriage is too difficult hence you have to get married to someone that you can accept as they already are. Of course, there is always room for improvement. But don't marry a non hijabi if you want a hijabi wife and don't marry someone a man who doesn't pray if you want a husband who prays etc. These people married faasiqeen and then they behaved like faasiqeen, what does anyone expect. As for the prevelance of social media, it's so ubiquitous that we have to be real about the prospects of stopping people from using it. Especially because different people use it in different ways. Some people may have an Instagram with no photos, no ghayr mahram followers and their posts are all Islamic quotes or videos. I have men and women in my family who are like this. They're looking at cooking videos and whatnot, it's just the manner in which they consume content. Maybe asking people to reduce their social media engagement to this type of level would be more fruitful than outright attempting to impose a ban in the house.
Maybe the husband is not to blame for having a disobedient wife who wouldn't listen to him at all? Unfortunately this is very common with our women as well nowadays.
There's a lot being said online about a Pakistani cricketer marrying an actress. Apparently, they were both married to other people when they got to know each other. Is it then any major surprise that they end up divorcing and getting married together? Perhaps due to foreign funding, Pakistani media is strongly promoting liberalism. Gender interaction has to be limited for a society to flourish. If they were both barred from flirting on morning TV, this wouldn't have happened. I don't know particulars and whether their previous marriages were on the rocks already but being coquettish whilst married doesn't end well. It is not healthy for a woman to interact with men unless necessary, especially if she's married. The means must be cut off. How many broken marriages have we seen and how many children left without a parent? Alahazrat says in Fatāwā Ridawiyyah, 22:208: 'Even with her husband's permission, a woman is not allowed to go to non-related men unless necessary.' Generally speaking, men must have ghayrah for their wives. And wives must become dutiful to husbands. This actress should not have been allowed by her husband in the first place to appear uncovered on TV. Related to us, let's say a husbands wants his wife to remove social media in order to protect from whispers of Satan, she should acquiesce. He has that right. He's only safeguarding the marriage. Society is crying out for Islam. And we have it. Yet we succumb to the feminism that pervades. --- Would be interesting to get the thoughts of others on social media use for women. I could be wrong.
